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November 27, 2006
Not As Upset As I Expected
When Mi Mama first told that me she was dating, I was a bit taken aback. The second time we talked about it, I was weirded out. Mi Mama hasn't dated for 13 years. This was big news. Oh, and by the way, the Beau will be staying in Mi Mama's house while he does carpentry work for her. And looking for work elsewhere. OK. Now I met this guy, and he seems like a fundementally good person, but still. Strange right?
As I am slowly working my way toward acceptance I have run the gamut of emotions. Stating as I mentioned, with shock, next there was betrayal. You have to understand that in the past Mi Mama had a career and a home and a full, busy life but really Micah and I were the center of it. I liked it that way. I have gotten really used to being one of the two most important people in my Mom's life. Now I do believe that it still true, deep down, but we are no longer front and center for her. Micah is out on his own, with a job, bills and a dog to care for. I am clearly married and I am working on building a new family of my own. I guess it is sort of natural that Mi Mama would be ready for something more in her life. But I have to say I felt a little replaced. And it hurt.
As I moved past being hurt, I stepped right into confusion. And this is where I am hanging out now. I realize I have not been surplanted, nor has Micah. I also know she is not head-over-heals in love, but she is in like and is keeping her eyes wide open. So while we all ride out this new phase in our lives, I am keeping my heart open and my mouth shut. Maybe I will even get to acceptance one of these days.
Quote of the Day:
A family is a unit composed not only of children but of men, women, an occasional animal, and the common cold.
Ogden Nash
Comments
I love the blog title! Thanks for sharing--I know this is a boring comment, but it was a very interesting entry! :)
Posted by: Red at November 27, 2006 8:38 PM
